DIFINING THE WORD 'MARRIAGE'

A man doesn't know what happiness is until he's married. By then it's too late. 
FRANK SINATRA

In literature the plagiarism, copying of others’ work, is the disease almost every writer has contacted at one or another time. When you copy from one person, it is plagiarism. But if you copy form five persons’ works, then it is called the research.

So this morning I was doing the research. And the subject of my research was, ‘Why the happiness is illusory in a married life’. I desired to find out the exact definition of the word"Married Life".

I contacted the persons ranging from William Shakespeare to Lady Diana. They must be knowing something about the married life, I thought.Shakespeare writer-ly fondled his fingers in his beard, look at the colorful clouds above, and said, “Love is the most beautiful of dreams and the worst of nightmares.”
Shakespeare's reply was like writing a comment on a friend's blog. everything goody goody. However in this field of activities, I found Diana more charming than Shakespeare.
Once asked about her marriage, Diana had said that “Well there were three of us in the marriage so it was a bit crowded.(BBC interview, 1995).

You know sometimes even the building like
Buckingham Palace can be a tight place to accommodate three persons at a time.

Inspired by the thoughtful answer by Lady Diana, I went on for more dependable opinions from those of who had proven record of success.
Being mesmerized by Sigmund Freud’s intelligence, I sought his guidance about the nature of marriages. I sometimes think that why most of the intelligent men preferred to have long beards. Though I have never grown a beard. Nor I have asked Salman Rushdie, either about the beards or about marriages. But Sigmund Freud was simple. He said: The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want?''

To be very frank, I am not as ignorant as Freud in this branch of knowledge. I know much about the wants of women, especially the woman with whom I have been tied forever. I know that a life after marriage is like bathing in a hot water pool; once you are accustomed to it, it is not so hot.

I was not fully contended yet. So desiring more scientific basis for happiness in married life I find our Albert Einstein. On why the married men and women feel cheated and disappointed he said that it is because," Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hopping they will not."

At last I consulted Oxford Dictionary as it is the sole savior of mine, when I feel myself blind in respect of meaning of any the word. Here what it says, Marriage : (is) Legally recognized personal union entered into by a man and a woman usu.
with the intention of living together and having sexual relations, and entailing property and inheritance rights;
the condition of being a husband or wife;
the relation between persons married to each other.
I think this is too much; I mean this definition covers so many things.
Let me stop my research.

I request all of my readers to help my research and educate me about their own experiences while being IN or OUT of the castle called Married Life. I would love much to know the secrets of those men and women who have courageously jumped out of the castle and regained their God-giftedfreedom.

Those who are still unmarried and happy are free to put their sighs as comments. And those who are married, please tell about your hardships only and avoid putting in the sighs, otherwise the comment box would be wet with the tears.

I am hopeful that my reader friends would surely help my research for finding the most wanted definition of the word'Marriage'.

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